“Is Obama locked in a victim mentality?”

From Fox News Opinion Section  Dr. Keith Ablow writes:

President Obama’s rhetoric is finally coming closer to what appears to be his psychological truth:  Because America victimized him and countless millions of others, any person or party or movement that opposes his views and does not yield to him is not just his adversary, but abusive, predatory and even threatening.

Again and again, President Obama has described members of Congress who insist on fiscal responsibility as having taken “hostages,” “demanding a ransom,” using “extortion,” and threatening to “blow up” the government.

On Tuesday, in fact, the president used these exact words when speaking to the press, “What you haven’t seen before, I think from the vantage point of a lot of world leaders, is the notion that one party in Congress might blow the whole thing up if they don’t get their way,” he said.  Later he added, “you do not hold people hostage or engage in ransom taking to get 100 percent of your way.”

It is exceedingly difficult to come to terms with a person who sees you as his oppressor, his kidnapper, and someone terrorizing him who might well destroy him. You aren’t likely to consider whether your assailant and jailer and would-be killer has a few good ideas, after all.

Seeing Barack Obama as someone who has a victim mentality would explain a lot. That mentality relies on believing one has been harmed, that one was not responsible for the injuries that occurred, that one could not have prevented what happened and that the person’s suffering makes that person morally right and deserving of sympathy.

 

As a young boy, Obama was, indeed, helpless.

He was helpless to stop his father from abandoning him.

He was helpless to stop his mother from leaving him with his grandparents.

He was helpless to stop his white grandmother and caretaker from communicating to him her fears of black people.

I’m not sure the president ever got over it.

 

The president’s victim mentality could contribute to dissolving the will of countless Americans who might otherwise see themselves as capable of summoning internal resolve and creativity to surge out of poverty.

True victims can’t surge out of anything, because they are hostage to forces outside their control. They await justice and restitution.

They don’t, ultimately, see themselves as able to stamp out poverty; they see themselves as the rightful recipients of food stamps.

They don’t, ultimately, see themselves as able to take control of their health; they see themselves as the rightful recipients of free health insurance.

They don’t, ultimately, see themselves as someone worth hiring and worthy of investing themselves with education and training; they see themselves as worthy of 99 weeks of unemployment checks.

And the president’s victim mentality could have already gone global.

The apology tour that the president embarked upon after being elected to his first term in office, apologizing for America’s supposed predatory behavior toward others, turned his victim mentality viral — offering a pandemic of helplessness to anyone who wanted to claim that the ills of its nation were due to a monstrous pathogen called the United States of America.

A victim mentality would explain why the president immediately allies with anyone else he thinks might be a victim, too.

This explains the seemingly bizarre statements he made castigating local police in Cambridge, Massachusetts for detaining a distinguished Harvard professor and man of color who they understandably considered possibly to be an intruder.

It explains him thinking that if he had a son that his son would look and act just like Trayvon Martin, an alleged drug user and burglar who was shot and killed by George Zimmerman, an older man of a different race.

In fact, the president went further to suggest that, were he 35-years younger, he could be Treyvon Martin.

If the president sees himself as a 17-year-old being held at gunpoint by an older man, then it is too much to expect him to govern effectively.

If he sees himself as having been taken hostage by kidnappers who want to blow him up, it is too much to expect him to hear any truths these “kidnappers” might want to share.

Victims aren’t expected to lead.  They expect to be rescued.

That would seem to be our problem as a nation right now.

~ Mrs AL

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23 Responses to “Is Obama locked in a victim mentality?”

  1. Kathy says:

    I can see the influence of his childhood circumstances and that might explain the blame game he plays, but other than that I don’t buy it. His statement about Congress ‘blowing the whole thing up’ tells me they’re on the verge of messing up his/their overall plan. He’s just shy of throwing another temper tantrum.

    Victim? Maybe just a bit, but the bigger part of him is part pawn and part spoiled brat.

  2. Clyde says:

    Victim schmictim. MILLIONS of people have had similar circumstances, and went on to GREAT things. This asshole could have done it as well. I refuse to buy it.

  3. Hardnox says:

    Good post. We are all molded by our life’s experience. Some get stronger while others are weakened by then. Sadly, this victimhood mentality is the narrative a great many people understand as “truth”. They are told daily that they cannot succeed because of others.

    Had Obama championed the successes he might have gone down as one of the most popular presidents in history. Instead he chose to open the sore which was healing. This is his legacy.

  4. Mrs AL says:

    Kathy and Clyde, I respect your basic rejection of the ‘victim’ thing. I did too at first. Now I am not equating our struggles with a real “war” as we normally define war, but I got to thinking about the following:

    “If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the enemy, for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle”
    Sun Tzu, The Art of War

  5. Buck says:

    Well, ‘Nox, it really pissed me off when Nixon didn’t challenge the ’60 election. Maybe he started this, “Let’s not cause a national crisis by challenging” mentality.
    Hell, the ’60 election was stolen, the ’12 election was stolen and how many other elections have been stolen without a murmur from the GOP?

  6. BrianR says:

    I agree with the symptomology and the causation, but disagree with the diagnosis.

    I don’t think Obozo suffers from a “victim mentality”. I think he’s a narcissistic sociopath.

    His narcissism would derive from all the same causative agents, in his case compounded by always being undeservedly praised for his essentially effortless “just being there” performance. Essentially, being lauded uncritically for being a black guy with brains. Example: he’s one of the only — if not THE only — people to ever make Harvard Law Review without having written a single article.

    Sociopathy is a mental disorder that seems to be organic in nature. How one channels their sociopathic tendencies determines whether or not they become criminals.

    Sociopaths don’t consider other humans as being actually “human”, and therefore it’s very easy to demonize them and endow them with less than human qualities, as they’re simply objects to be used in the furtherance of the sociopath’s personal goals.

    This describes Obozo’s actions to a T. It also describes other aspects of his political career and performance as POTUS.

    Notice how he never thought it necessary to actually acquire any of the experience or qualifications for any of the offices he’s held. In his mind, he “deserves” them just because.

    Notice how, once actually IN office, he never shows much interest in actually performing the DUTIES of that office, merely phoning in a minimal performance while indulging himself in all the perks and prestige of that office.

    As a Senator, he voted “present” on most bills requiring his vote, rather than taking an actual position. As POTUS, he’s the Golfer-In-Chief.

    He’s really pretty much a casebook example of the disorder, IMO.

    • Mrs AL says:

      You may well be correct, BrianR. I offer this link for your review …

      http://www.zurinstitute.com/victimhood.html

      I don’t think having a ‘victim mentality’ is an actual diagnosis like narcissistic sociopath. I could be wrong, though!

    • Saltwater says:

      The diagnoses are not mutually exclusive.
      A narcissist may have an over blown view of self-importance, but also possess the fragile ego of someone perceiving himself as a constant victim. Open challenges to that grandiose view are seen as efforts by those considered of lesser or no stature to denigrate their superior.
      Driven by belief in being unfairly victimized at the hands of such sub-humans, a narcissistic sociopath would easily strike without remorse. Destroying those unworthy tormentors bolsters the sense of superiority. That there was ever a challenge further fractures that fragile ego, entrenching belief the world has wronged him.
      And the cycle continues… “Nobody loves me. Everybody hates me. Guess I’ll go play golf.”

      • Mrs AL says:

        So “Victimology” is an actual diagnosis? Wow. News to me and I thank you for the correction, Saltwater. As for the lack of mutual exclusivity in actions, etc. I agree 100%.

        As for your last line, my husband person said that as a kid they would say, “Nobody loves me, everybody hates me. I’m gonna; go eat worms.’ Of course golf is appropriate for the Resident — haha.

        • Saltwater says:

          I am not expert enough in the field of psychology to state that a ‘victim mentality’ is recognized as some form of mental disorder. However, the article you referenced did note that many victims place themselves in position for continued victimization because, in some situations, the rewards out weigh the costs.

          Let us take the hypothetical example of a young child. A child of mixed race whose parents of diverse cultures separate when he is very young. Let us also assume this child is bounced from household to household as a matter of convenience. Households where he is bombarded with conflicting information about how his heritage is a detriment, and a key to privilege. He is pampered while being inundated with stories of abject misery laid upon others.

          As he grows older, he finds that his heritage is at times a detriment, but… and a very big but…. if he can find the right sympathetic ear, he can parlay his heritage into a golden pass. Using this pass, he is able to not only bypass those original obstacles, but actually step to the front of the line. He gains that prestigious position so often he begins to believe that he, and only he, is deserving to be there.

          Every now and then, say at the concert hall, someone suggests he wait his turn along with others. Outraged, he flashes his golden pass, demanding recognition of his high standing. He is led past the box office queue and through a reserved entrance. Once inside, he bristles at being relegated to festival seating. He demands more fitting accommodations, and threatens to prevent the show from starting unless satisfied. Management succumbs under pressure of nearing curtain time. He is escorted to a luxury box seat.

          Our hypothetical person has learned that being a ‘victim’ pays, and expects to be ‘paid’ well.

          So, while I cannot say whether “victimology” is real, someone who chooses to be a ‘victim’ for convenience – such as our hypothetical example – exhibits faulty, if not clinically abnormal, mental processes.

          • Mrs AL says:

            Again, thanx for the enlightenment, Saltwater. I can be a royal pain in the rear-end because I am so bloody language sensitive. I am appreciative of your patience.

            • Saltwater says:

              You are quite welcome, Mrs AL. It is good that our hypothetical person does not exist. I would hate to consider what damage such a person could cause if ever given opportunity to impose his warped will upon others. The resulting chaos would surely…… OH, CRAP!

  7. Grey Neely says:

    Like BrianR, I really don’t “buy” the victim mentality argument. Obama made too many of his choices when he was a young adult and could be reasonably expected to know better. But he was also trained by the Chicago Black Political Machine (almost groomed one might say) to enter the political “combat” zone and use the “Race Card” anytime he needed to advance in power (especially with white Liberals). This “Race Card” appears to be a “victim mentality” but in my opinion is a “learned” political ploy.

    But his extreme narcissism (which he initially developed as a mixed race child in an affluent white family setting) was “fueled” by the Left and their constant giving to him unwarranted praise. So in that respect, Obama is a product of his environment.

    My opinion is that Obama is a product of the Democrat Party and the party’s socialist/communist movement in their Far Left factions. And his actions, for the most part, are his own choices.

    .

    • Mrs AL says:

      Thanx for your take on this, Grey. You just may be right that ” … Obama is a product of the Democrat Party and the party’s socialist/communist movement in their Far Left factions.” As always, good to ‘see’ you.

  8. Mrs AL says:

    To all who have commented thus far, this has been a great discussion. Thanx so much for your participation.

    For me, the last two sentences of the article are the most powerful within the context of the information:

    “Victims aren’t expected to lead. They expect to be rescued.

    That would seem to be our problem as a nation right now.”

    I happen to agree with the conclusion. The Resident appears incapable of actually leading. He hides behind others and uses them to skirt responsibility. Indeed, he expects to he “rescued.”

  9. Gar Swaffar says:

    I have to admit that I’m not concerned with how he feels as a victim from issues in his past. We’re all victims of our past. We are supposed to grow beyond that as adults, and yet apparently Barry has a BooBoo and that is only an indication that he needs therapy, and not a job as the POTUS.

    • Mrs AL says:

      Could not agree more about his need to ‘grow up.’ However, once we know what drives a person we are better equipped to deal with them. And that’s where I think the conservatives in D.C. would be wise to better understand the Resident. It would alter not only their behavior, but their communication as well. Well, that’s what I think, anyway.

      Thanx for coming by, Gar.